Want to feel smoking hot, but aren’t bothered putting lippy on?

When was the last time you wore a bit of make up? If you have to think about it, it’s been too long. Would you love to walk through the local department store and rather than avoiding the beauty counters have a browse and a choose a sample colour for a bit of fun?

Whether you have kids or not, you probably have a very different beauty regime to that of when you were younger. The importance of beauty may change slightly or dramatically depending on your life stage, yet the reasons why a beauty regime should be a priority needs to shared.

Now don’t get me wrong there is the darker side of the beauty industry, selling to women, that they need this blush or that mascara to find your soul mate, or this facial scrub or exfoliator to look 10 years younger, photoshopping left, right and centre, selfie, selfie and more selfies. I’m sharing this with you to highlight the side of the industry and yourself that isn’t thought of as often.

The side of you where wearing a bit of make up whatever that means for you is adorning and nourishing yourself as the sensually alive goddess you are. It is a opportunity to have a bit of fun, spice up your life and add a bit of colour to your day. Now don’t you want a bit more colour, I know I do.

Whether it’s painting your nails, putting mascara on, or wearing your best shoes to the school pick up or to work, it’s about helping you to feel great and sexy more often, so you can have loads of energy, are able to be in the moment and downright have fun.

There are women (you may be included in this) who are totally ok with wearing no make up, dressing for comfort rather than style and don’t have a pair of stilettos in their wardrobe; this is for you because if you had the info to help you make conscious choices you may feel differently about getting that make over, those stilletos (even if it is to spice up bedroom fun) or a manicure.

So here are 4 tips to feeling sexier and finally wearing that lippy; gathering dust in the bathroom cupboard;

1. Be clear on your intention

If you have scheduled a makeover know what you want to use the make up for, do you want an everyday look for any occasion whether that’s taking the kids to school, staying at home with a new born or going to work or working from home. Or do you want a look for evening times when going out with friends? On a first date, or 111^th date with hubby after 10 years or to the movies or a play with friends? The problem is there are so many options for so many occasions that it can be overwhelming even before you step foot in the store. So instead have a couple of looks that you like to bring in with you via google images and know what you want the look for, daily wear, special occasions or evening bedroom fun.

You may want to highlight your features or body yet have no idea where to start. The solution is to be clear with your intention, if you do want to find out more about make up what do you want to use it for? That way when you go to the dreaded beauty counter in your local department store you are clear on the make up look to go for.

2. Know what’s essential for you

The problem is what is essential for one woman may be Over The Top (otherwise known as OTT) for another. Everyone has a different amount of time, money to invest and effort to spend on making your face up. When walking up to a beauty counter, you don’t want to feel like a walking cash machine. Spewing out cash or cards then wondering why you have this feeling in your stomach as you walk away. There are so many products to purchase and wear and unless you are a make up artist, performer, go out most nights or just love wearing your make up it is challenging to know what to buy.

Here’s what you to do instead decide on your budget, time you want to spend on your beauty regime, if you want the super fast beauty regime go for 3 items; mascara, bronzer and clear coloured lip gloss. These are very simple as you can literally apply in minutes and be out the door. These items are also a great base for ramping up your look if you are going out to a dinner, party or show.

3. Receive the gifts of PRAISE and HELP

As a modern, loving and caring woman, you are probably used to doing things on you own. Asking for and receiving help is something most women struggle with. Brushing off compliments is one of my bug bears, it may be controversial yet I’m wanting to make a point. A compliment or praise is like fuel for your love tank and like a non-physical gift that someone is giving you. How would you feel if you gave a friend a gift that you spent time thinking about, buying it and wrapping it and they turned around and said “Oh no, that’s too much. That’s not for me?” You’d be upset to say the least. Well that is exactly what happens when you don’t receive a compliment. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not your fault you weren’t taught how to.

Here’s what to do instead, allow yourself to be vulnerable and use this as a prime opportunity for you and a friend to have a girly time, connect, share and receive help and praise with each other. It’s a really great idea for a time out to enjoy each other’s company and get some honest and trustworthy praise and help when shopping for mascara or lippy. When you have your make up on and your are looking lovely (or at any time) and you receive a compliment treat it like a gift wrapped up for you from the person giving and take it. It is a disservice to the person giving you the praise and a disservice to you for not receiving it because you deserve that compliment right now however you look.

4. Have fun, exploring and playing

The problem is most women probably yourself included don’t have as much fun or play as you’d like. Learning to enhance your features sometimes doesn’t happen for most women at a younger age. Too many jobs to do around the house, or at work or taking your dog to the vet, it goes on and on prioritizing having and exploring this side of yourself isn’t high on the list. Here’s what to do instead, make a habit to at least once a week have a bit of pamper and pleasure. This is an opportunity in your life when you probably need more fun and pampering to help you feel good, that’s it feeling good. Making an effort with yourself to feel even more beautiful and sexy and this is the commitment you can make to yourself or a friend to do this.

Let me know how you go and leave a comment or drop me a line at shaylin@shaylinrose.com.